When I schedule my surgeries, the first thing I did was call my best friend, Chrissy. I have known her for over ten years and been the best of friends for a solid nine. Chrissy is my rock. She is funny, wise, empathetic, and understanding. She knows just what to say to make me feel better without minimizing how I feel. These qualities, combined with her passionate beliefs, make her the best of company in any situation.
Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Help
You will need to ask for help. Do yourself a favor and line up help ahead of your surgeries. Asking for help does not mean that you are incapable but that you are responsible. If you have a family with small children, or even big children who still need to be driven to events, start lining up assistance right away. Don’t worry about paying people back for their assistance either. Good friends will be there for you and expect nothing in return but your gratitude.
Before I could even ask Chrissy to come to my rescue, she volunteered. Good friends will do that, you know. Don’t discard their offers, but accept them with thanks. People want to feel useful. Let them!
This goes for your family, too. One morning Chrissy and Matt cooked breakfast for me. The omelettes and bacon were some of the best I’d tasted!
acCepting Help Even If You Don’t Want Company…
…that’s okay, too! But, let people help in other ways. If you have a sweet tooth, like me, consider asking for a delivery of your favorite treat. A fantastic friend of mine, Rebecca, delivered my favorite cupcake without being asked! Score!!!
You could always ask for groceries to replenish your fridge or have a friend set up a care calendar for meals. Check out CareCalendar.org. The website allows friends to sign up to bring you meals on specific days at specific times.
You could even have a friend take care of your pets, which is especially important if you don’t have a family support network. You will not be able to do what you normally do for quite some time. This includes getting tugged around by fido or lifting heavy containers of kitty litter. Don’t underestimate the importance of adhering to post-op instructions; you will only heal more slowly.
Remember, you don’t have to be Wonder Woman. You are super just for healing. Your job is to get better, not do everything. Call up those friends and put them to work!